Life Updates & House Renovations & Frozen Embryo Transfer, Oh my…

 

Well here we are again. Long time no see. Life just got busy and the blog took the back burner. I miss writing and expressing myself here. I’m glad I’m back. Hopefully this time I can stick it out. My last post was back in December 2016, fast forward almost 7 months and here we are. We have just celebrated our daughters 1st birthday in May and our sons 5th birthday in June, its been a busy few months. Zach is now in school, already half way through this school year, I’m amazed at how well he is doing. I haven’t been back to work, and honestly don’t see myself going back until after we get our baby years behind us…so maybe in the next 3-4 years or so I’ll head back into the work force. For the time being I’m enjoying being a mum and watching my children grow. The past year has honestly been a blur, it all went by so quickly. When it comes to motherhood I know one thing to be true. The days are long, but the years are short!

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Adding To Our Family…?

One exciting thing happening at the moment is our upcoming FET (frozen embryo transfer) We are hoping to add the final piece to our family puzzle. We are lucky enough to have 4 frozen embryos in storage from our full IVF cycle back in 2015, so this time around things will be a lot more straight forward when it comes to the transfer, no injections or hormones, just a few pills a couple times a day to help thicken up my lining. This also means we are not going to be breaking the bank as much, although lets be real a frozen embryo transfer isn’t exactly cheap either. We met with our doctor at the end of May and we have our transfer planner from our IVF nurses all set and ready to go, we have made our first payment ($2,600 later…) I have all my medications and vitamins, now its just a waiting game. It all starts July 25th! If things go to plan (knock on wood) we’ll have our scan on August 8th and if my lining is all good then transfer is set for August 17th. Can’t wait to share this exciting journey with you all again.

19429711_10158806627900580_2712759851094981244_n Zach’s 5th Birthday!!! Can’t believe he is already 5!

 

House Renovations…?

So in October last year we actually moved house as our ‘family home’ was no longer big enough for our growing family. We are currently renting a larger house but we have exciting news – in 10 months time we will be starting renovations on our old home (it’s currently being leased out so we need to wait until their contract ends) We are expanding and doing extensions to the home as well as a brand new kitchen and floors. I’m most excited about a new kitchen…hello Pinterest, I’m already searching for inspiration. So we will hopefully be turning our little 3 bedroom house into a 4 bedroom house with 2 living areas and a bigger and better kitchen!! We are so excited to get the ball rolling with this. But until then we need to move again into a different rental (closer to Zach’s school, cheaper rent to help save anything extra we can etc) so we will be up and out of this house within the next few months. I’m thinking I won’t even unpack everything in the next move…I’ll just wait until we are in our forever home haha. #lazymum…

Thanks for reading and I hope you enjoyed this little update, look out for lots more updates and posts coming your way. Until next time…

sarah xx

 

My advice: Breastfeeding…

So I’ve had a few people ask me about breastfeeding advice and all I can say is I am certainly no expert. But I thought I’d share 5 tips/general advice to help make breastfeeding a little more of a relaxing and easy task

A little back ground first on my breastfeeding/formula feeding journey’s. With my son Zach, now 4.5 years old I did ‘try’ to breastfed him, I have try in quotation marks because looking back at it I don’t think I really tried at all. I gave up way too easily. His first night home was rough (lets face it – its meant to be!) I sat in the glider all night with him on my boob and thought this isn’t normal, he isn’t getting enough milk. (It is normal! That baby will live on your boob for 24 hours a day if it could lol) My nipples were sore and I just gave in, off to pick up formula we went. And that was that. Hell my milk hadn’t even come in by then and I just gave up.  It did come in the next day and my boobs were leaking everywhere. I still continued with the formula anyway…it was too hard to even try again. Now I’m not saying if you decide to switch to formula feeding that there is anything wrong with that – hello i did it. I’m just simply wanting to let first time mums/first time breastfeeders know that it will be hard but you can push through it. It gets easier!

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{ Baby Sunny’s first latch }

This time around I knew I wanted to try harder. I knew I was going to feed my baby with my body, I wasn’t going down without a fight! Breastfeeding wasn’t meant to be easy, hell nothing about pregnancy, birth, taking care of and raising a baby is easy so why would feeding be any different! But I’m happy I pushed through (at times i wanted to give up again, not going to lie) and here we are today…almost at 7 months of successful breastfeeding for us. It’s been an amazing, rewarding journey…and saved me a ton of sleeping time not having to make and warm a bottle at 3am lol. So here we go, 5 tips/general advice that helped me with my breastfeeding journey.

1. The first 2 weeks are HARD!!! They are full of loooong cluster feeds and very little sleep. Baby will feel like they live on the boob. But push through. It will get better. I found just nesting at home for the first 2-3 weeks after the birth was the best thing. I was lucky enough to have my husband home for the first 3 weeks of our daughters life so he took care of the Daycare runs for our older son and the cooking/cleaning and entertaining of our son. Nipple cream will be a new best friend and breast pads because when that milk comes in, it really likes to come in!!

2. Find ‘your space‘ for feeding sessions. To this day when at home I only have 2 places in the whole house I enjoy feeding in. Our glider in the bedroom for bedtime/night feeds and the recliner in our media room for day feeds. I physically feel ‘off’ if I feed her in a different chair/room while at home. A nice comfortable chair and a quite room are bliss! (Well as quite as a 4.5 year old brother will allow…)

3. If you have a suspected ‘low supply‘ or are finding pumping isn’t producing enough milk try a lactation cookie! Pinterest has tons of different recipes to try, if they have Brewers yeast and oats in the ingredients list then they will be a winner in my book. Great combo for boosting milk. You can also of course buy lactation cookies already made, I’ve only personally tried one brand before, they were the Franjo’s Kitchen lactation cookies in Choc Chip (personal fave!) and Fig & Almond flavours. I found them to be amazing although I only used them for about 3 months as my milk supply increased a ton and I had more than enough to feed my daughter and haven’t had any supply issues at all/since.

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4. Stay hydrated!!! Water is your best friend. Eating regular snacks is also a live saver. Have a little snack and water close by during breastfeeding sessions, especially those newborn cluster sessions that can last hours!! I remember actually sitting there during those early breastfeeding days and just feel my body craving a nice cold glass of water, I felt instantly better sipping on water while I fed.

5. My best tip – DON’T BE EMBARRASSED! Do not be embarrassed to feed in public places. For the first few months I didn’t feel at ease/comfortable to feed in public. If we were out and my daughter cried and I knew it was a hungry cry I would get scared, the cries were loud so I knew people were already looking. What was I gonna do, whip my boob out while everyone looked. The idea scared me…Fast forward almost 7 months into our breastfeeding journey and I’m whipping that boob out all over town, in the car, in a cafe, at the shopping centre. Bitch if my baby is hungry it’s getting fed. End of story. I’ve never personally had any rude comments or stares while feeding in public but I know it’s still for some reason ‘frowned upon’ by some people. But fuck them. My baby having a full tummy and being happy is more important than what those close-minded assholes think. Embrace the awesomeness of the human body – its AMAZING! 

Stupid things people say to infertile couples…

When you let the secret out of the bag, “We’re trying for a baby” and months or years (in our case) pass by and there is still no baby, you hear the stupidest, sometimes insensitive and down right dumb comments. I thought I’d share some of the highlights I’ve had said to me/others have had said to them. Of course I mean no harm to anyone who might have said anything similar to someone in a situation involving infertility etc, (it can be an awkward or uncomfortable topic)  just maybe it will help you know what NOT to say. Sometimes silence is golden…

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6 stupid things people say to infertile couples…

1. “Just stop trying…it will happen when you stop trying. That’s what happened to my sister’s best friends, mum’s uncles, cousin…”

Ok first of all just stop! I don’t give a crap what happened with your sisters’s best friends, mum’s uncles cousin…I know your intentions are good, kind of throwing out a little sense of hope but it’s kind of hard to stop ‘thinking’ and ‘trying’ for something that you long for and hope for every day of your life…plus if you have infertility ‘just waiting it out’ and ‘forgetting’ about it won’t solve it.

2. “Think of all the money you will save not having to buy contraceptives ever again…”

Yes, because forking over $12,000+ for IVF treatments (not to mention emotional struggles, daily hormone injections, doctor fees…etc) is so much better. Oh and that’s if they even end up working. Great logic.

3. “You could adopt…”

I hate this comment the most – do you know how HARD adoption is? And how long of a process and how expensive it is? It’s not a simple process or a bandaid solution. Don’t get me wrong adoption is defintly an amazing thing but to even qualify for it (in Australia especially) is really hard so no…we can’t ‘just adopt…’

4. “God didn’t want you to have kids…”

Yep, I actually witnessed someone say this to another lady so not a personal experience. The lady said that IVF was wrong, that that baby shouldn’t have been born and that she was NOT meant to be a mother. Ok where to start with this one. First off I know plenty of people who conceived naturally and SHOULD NOT be mothers. Drug addicts, paedophiles, just to know a few. So you can honestly sit there and say that a mother who smokes crack and has a baby who is born ADDICTED to drugs and has days/weeks of withdrawal shakes/symptoms deserves to be a mother and a loving stable couple don’t? Again with that great logic. 

5. “Just get a dog…

Really? Well ok then but only if you don’t think I’m crazy if I put it in nappies, and push it around in a pram, and breastfeed it...oh wait NO that would be crazy AND stupid. Just like suggesting a dog could substitute a human baby…

6. “Oh I know what you are going through it took us 3 cycles to fall pregnant…”

No you don’t know what we are going through. 3 cycles is nothing. Hell on average it can take 6 months – 1 year for a ‘normal/healthy‘ couple to fall pregnant so actually 3 months is fast! Try 24+ cycles – then you can talk to me about how you know what I’m going through…

So there you have it, just a few of the things I have had someone/heard others say to people living with infertility. Hopefully if you come across someone/a friend dealing with the same or similar situations now you will have a little better understanding about what not to say (oh and please don’t tell them they can just have you kids…that jokes old and not funny!) Maybe instead just let them know that you are there for support, a shoulder to cry on. Or even do just a little IVF/infertility research. Let them know they are not alone.

Reflections…


Wow. It’s been a while, but I feel like it’s time for an update! It’s crazy to think that this time last year we just finished up a round of IUI – and our hearts were broken just a few days after our sons birthday when my period arrived and our cycle was officially a bust. I remember it like it was yesterday. We had arranged to take our son to the local show (carnival that comes once a year) for his birthday present. And the morning of the show I woke up to blood. I had gotten my period and I knew that our IUI cycle was unsuccessful. I remember how sad and heartbroken I was and how much I just wanted to lay in bed and cry. But I stayed strong for my son and we ventured on to the show. It was an amazing day and I loved seeing his face light up seeing all of the rides and games and excitement for the very first time. I held it together so well that day. But that night I let the tears flow. I kept asking why, why couldn’t this have been it, I just wanted it so bad. I will never forget that feeling. I will never forget the heat of the tears falling down my cheeks and that soundless cry – where your crying so hard but no sound comes out…
As much as that memory is painful it’s also beautiful. Because without that failed cycle I wouldn’t have gone on to have our IVF cycle and I wouldn’t have had my now 6 week old baby girl. I was meant to meet her, she was meant to be mine. We met at exactly the right time in exactly the right way. I was destined to be HER mother!! And every experience in my life lead me to her. 

It’s been a crazy 12 months, failed IUI, many injections and blood tests, tears and stress, successful IVF cycle, crazy 9 months of pregnancy, an amazing 100% drug free birth, and now here we are, my son and my daughter in my arms and I couldn’t feel anymore blessed than I do in this moment. 

So here she is our daughter Sunny Evelyn Munro, born May 12th at 10:46am, weighing in at 4.125kg and 51cm long.


Dating scan…

So we were originally meant to have our dating scan done this week sometime (7 weeks) but when I rang up my fertility specialist last week to book in for this week they told me he couldn’t do it as he was leaving for holidays the very next day and wouldn’t be back until Oct 6th! I’d be 9 weeks by then. I was really bummed because I just really wanted to see our little baby and make sure everything was moving along nicely. Soooo we went ahead and booked in with him for Oct 6th. But….today I couldn’t take it anymore I needed to get my dating scan done! So I just went to our normal GP doctors clinic to see if they could get me a referral – and they did! So I got to see our beautiful little ‘sunbeam’ (Jason’s nickname for baby lol) this morning. It was AMAZING and it all went perfectly. Baby was measuring at exactly 7 weeks and 1 day – smack bang on track. And when I saw that little flicker of a heartbeat everything was at ease. It was perfection. Heart rate was 135 and going strong. The ultrasound technician did say that both of my ovaries were still a little swollen from the IVF medication but nothing to be concerned about. Looking forward to seeing how much baby has grown by the time we head in for our 9 week ultrasound with our fertility doctor. This will be our last appointment with him, then we are back to normal GP/midwife care. Our fertility clinic Monash IVF sent us our letter and pregnancy handbook last week, saying we have officially graduated from them, it’s so bittersweet. I’m going to miss the nurses – they were all so so lovely. Bring on the 7ish months – I’m ready for everything this pregnancy has in store for us!

 
 

   

Beta #3 & Week 6: Bump-Date…

So went in for beta number 3 (yay last one!) last tuesday and it was a strong 24,200. So so happy everything is growing and rising like it should be. Time for Week 6: Bump Date!!!

How far along? 6 weeks!
Total weight gain/loss: Gain, 0.5kg roughly.

Maternity clothes? Still loving maternity jeans but thats it so far.
Stretch marks? Nope
Sleep: Getting a good 9-10 hours a night and still feeling very fatigued during the day. ugh!
Best moment this week: Counting down to the ultrasound and ‘graduating’ from our fertility clinic. Bitter sweet.

Worst moment this week: Nausea!!!
Have you told family and friends: Waiting for the Facebook announcement until after we are in the 2nd trimester…if we can last that long.

Movement: Too early just yet.
Food cravings: Apples and Vegemite…not together lol
Have you started to show yet: I’m gonna say yes, so bloody bloated.
Leakage: Nope.
Gender prediction: I’m still thinking boy…

 Labor Signs: Way too early!

Belly Button in or out? In.
Wedding rings on or off? On
Happy or Moody most of the time: Yea happy and just sleepy haha
Milestones: Goodbye fertility clinic, we have graduated!


Beta #2: Results…

  
Beta #2 was this morning (18dp5dt) and just got the call back from my nurse. HCG is now at 5,180! (Yay for rising numbers!) They are looking for the numbers to double every 48-72 hours and mine more than doubled from my 1st beta so we are very happy with that. My progesterone is at 181 with is also great she said, I still need to be on my progesterone pessaries twice a day until I see my fertility doctor for our first ultrasound. (Only 2 weeks away!!!) So glad everything is moving in the right direction. Keep growing baby!